Texting Etiquette – The Do’s and Don’ts in Dating

Dating and communication in the modern world can be a journey where you get a feeling of excitement with every experience but also question every move you make. The same goes with texting.

One of the biggest anxiety triggers is texting etiquette. A simple message notification from someone you are interested in sends a happy energy through your body or send a feeling of panic in an instant. The beauty of texting is that you can show people the type of person you are and how you feel about them without the pressure of doing it in person.

To help you navigate through common texting etiquette rules, here are a few do’s and don’ts that you should consider the next time you want to send a quick message:

Texting Do’s

There is nothing truly set in stone about texting someone you are interested in, because everyone is different in how they communicate, but these general rules will help keep you ahead of the game.

Quick messages to let them know you're thinking of them

Sending something casual to let them know you are in their thoughts is a great way to keep you in their mind and give them a happy message to know someone cares about them. Avoid leaving them hanging with a simple “hey” or “hi”, instead, text about something you’ve talked about or shared like “decided to try that recipe you mentioned, and it was delicious”.

Make plans to meet up again

Let them know that you would like to see them again by making some fun plans in the near future. Staying in touch and going out together will keep you in their mind and keep the spark lit for romance. Going silent or letting the momentum fizzle will only have them focused on other people who are willing to make time to see them.

‘Thank You’ messages

After a date, send them a sweet text to thank them for spending time with you and that it was fun. Little gestures like this show your appreciative side and will also make them feel special.

Texting Don’ts

No matter new a relationship is or even how long you have known someone, these are common issues that many people face while texting. Avoid these texting no-no’s and build a great modern dating life.

Ask too many questions

One of the biggest faux pas of texting is sending them way too many texts at once, along with a stream of never-ending questions. Not only will these two points make you seem desperate and intimidating, but it will make them feel very uncomfortable and unwilling to communicate further, thinking they will get battered with another round of messages and questions.

Negative messages

No one likes to feel depressed or defeated by someone, so when you send texts and replies that are always less than enthusiastic, it brings the whole mood down, which will lead them to communicate less frequently with you. That doesn’t mean you have to put on a front all the time, but a new relationship will not sustain constant negativity. Try to keep messages lighthearted and keen.

Assume or obsess over texts

Everyone’s thought process is different and figuring out someone’s feelings from text messages is a major pitfall that people get caught up in. Obsessing over every message will not only drive you crazy but could also make you think the relationship is doomed when it really isn’t.